He has never been a disappointment....

"I'm done with you two..."

"You're dead to us...wills will be changed.."

"You were a disappointment to Dad..."

"You even think like a Richmond because you have been married to one for too long.."




These are just some of the texts that were sent to my husband this week, all because his sibling was not invited to a Richmond Family get together.


Pretty shocking....so where do we go from here? We have made endless attempts to please – only to never really get there. We keep guessing about which version of them we're going to get. And we are tired....

What lessons can learn? What understandings have been affirmed? What are these comments evidence of?

There is limited understanding of family and relationships.

There is no understanding about the relationship between a husband and wife.

Anger is often a cover for envy and pain.

Words and actions have consequences.

And so we detach and disengage.






And focus on our children, our grandchildren, and those who bring joy and peace into our lives.

Maybe time will resolve things, but in this moment and in this day, neither of us care.

And my husband was never a disappointment to his dad.


And he has not been married to me for too long. We don't know where we end and the other begins. These have been the best years of our lives and I love him. 💗